Feeling broken is one of the effects of experiencing trauma in relationships. Trust has been destroyed, feelings are raw, and the future is uncertain. But here’s some good news: it is possible to heal. This blog will be a toolbox for picking up pieces and rebuilding a stronger, healthier you.
Step 1: Acknowledge the Cracks – Recognizing the Trauma
The first step involves accepting that there was, indeed, trauma. Could your partner have been controlling, emotionally abusive, or even physically violent? Do not belittle what you went through. It is crucial to accept and acknowledge the abuse to start healing from relationship trauma.
Step 2: Declutter Your Space – Creating a Safe Environment
An overcrowded space similar to an overcrowded room can be very overwhelming, to say the least. Discard physical reminders like photographs and gifts or shared items with your abuser. Spend time in safe places around supportive people who help calm you down and regain control over yourself.
Step 3: Silence the Inner Critic – Challenging Negative Thoughts
After trauma, people might hold onto negative self-beliefs about themselves. “I am not enough” could be their thinking, or “I deserve this”. Answer back! Write them out on paper, then write down opposing arguments to these thoughts, such as “This wasn’t my fault” or “I am worthy of love and respect.”
Step 4: Reconnect with Yourself – Rediscovering Your Passions
Trauma can make someone lose themselves completely. Revisit hobbies that were once your passion, like painting music, among others, or spending time outdoors/in nature again- they will remind you of how strong & resilient you are.
Step 5: Build Your Support Squad – Finding Your Tribe
Healing comes faster when there is support. Depends on your close friends, family, or even a therapist. Support groups will connect you to people who will understand what you are going through and offer you encouragement and advice.
Step 6: Body and Mind Reset – Taking Care of Yourself
Self-care is necessary while healing. Sleep more, eat healthier, and exercise often. By taking care of yourself physically, you can improve your emotional well-being. Consider relaxation techniques such as yoga or meditation for managing stress and anxiety.
Step 7: Celebrate Small Victories – Acknowledging Your Progress
Healing does not follow a straight line. Some days will be good, while others will be terrible. However, always remember the small victories! Did you have a productive day? Did you stand up for yourself? Recognizing that progress strengthens your determination and keeps moving forward.
Step 8: Forgive Yourself, Not Your Abuser
Forgiveness could be mighty, but it never justifies the wrongdoings of an abuser. Forgive yourself for staying in that relationship, for trusting the wrong person with yourself. Grudges only hurt you further. Let go instead and move forward.
Seek Help!
It hurts to experience relationship trauma, but you do not have to face it alone. Some love you and want to help. Seek their support, take care of yourself, and believe that given time and effort, things will heal so that you can rebuild a life filled with love, joy, and healthy relationships.
